And where are the sober spaces? We often talk about “building safer spaces”, and yet our fundraisers are not safe for people that have a current or past history with addiction. They are not safe for people that have experienced abuse because of alcohol/drug dependent partners or family members. And they are definitely not safe for everyone if there is a possibility of police interference. Consent violations also occur more often in non-sober spaces. Don’t we want to ensure the safety of event participants after the event has ended? Including alcohol limits who can attend, what conversations can occur, and who wants to organize. These events usually end with no advancement of our movements, and do not build long lasting, genuine connections.
I am interested in building and sustaining more sober spaces, bridging intergenerational gaps (especially in the queer community), and being accessible to ALL peoples, not just college kids. I am tired of people throwing around the word “community”, when what we really mean is our close group of (amazing and supportive) friends and acquaintances.
Yucca, “An Open Letter to Young Organizers”
Yes! This is a conversation I’ve had many times with friends who are organizers/are recovering from addiction/who can’t be around alcohol or drugs because of PTSD/triggers/etc.
Welcome to my world of never wanting to hang out with punx/metalheads/general queer community. Safe spaces that are not sober aren’t really safe spaces for anyone with addiction issues. If I can stop smoking for an event for the comfort of others, you can not drink.
At the very least it would be good to have spaces where being sober was tolerated. In my experience sobriety is rarely accepted or encouraged in social contexts (this might be mainly an NZ thing, though). Seriously. I shouldn’t have to justify and defend my lack of drinking to every single fucking person I interact with.
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